Tuesday, June 19, 2012

Renewal of Our Vows part 3:

text by Jaime Valdes-Riench
Image by Now Amber. 



Our ceremony

How appropriate that today out of all days the minister from the resort emails us to finalize our vows since today is Jorge and my 13th wedding anniversary!  What a fun and emotional journey that has been.  It is so reassuring that it is now finalized.  It gives the closure I needed to know that we are ready to be married again!

With me being an officiant myself I thought I would be a little unaffected by the words of the ceremony since I do say them all the time to all the wonderful couples I marry.  Now, not because I don’t feel for them, but simply I have learned to accept and hold back so I don’t cry at the weddings.  Could you imagine if the officiant started crying.. now that would be interesting.

Back to the vows:  Lucie at the resort is the minister that will be officiating our ceremony.  I am so excited as a couple we where able to experience the back and forth it took to make them just right.  As a planner, I see some of it, but I usually allow the couple and minister to work together for their privacy.

Lucie created such an amazing ceremony.  It is full of imagery of love and commitment, which reflects how both Jorge and I, and how feel for each other.  We asked for our children to be mentioned, we have time to say our own vows to each other and we even have a few ceremony verses such as “The Art of Marriage” and “The Blessing of the Hands”.  If I may, I would like to share them with you:

THE ART OF MARRIAGE
~ Author Wilferd A. Peterson ~
         
The little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.

It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through all the years.

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice,
but in the spirit of joy.

It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner

Blessing of the Hands
 These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.
These are the hands that will work alongside yours, as together you build your future.
These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other.
These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief fills your mind. These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes; tears of sorrow, and tears of joy.
These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.
These are the hands that will help you to hold your family as one.
These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.
And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.

So I guess it is all real now! The countdown really is on! One week and away we go…

Cheers to a happy life together!